Should I take my child’s siblings to the birthday party?

Birthday parties are a great opportunity to get all our friends and family together, catch up and have a great time celebrating your child’s birthday.

In an ideal world, it would be an open house and we’d welcome extra guests, like guests’ siblings, with open arms. But the reality is birthday parties can be a little more complex to organise and even a few unexpected guests can cause the host a big headache on the day when they have enough to worry about.

Here are the main reasons you shouldn’t just turn up to a birthday party with your child’s siblings in tow.

1. Food and Party Bags

It can seem like a military operation making sure you have enough food and party bags for all the children that have said they will be attending the party, so it is no wonder the host’s heart sinks when they see extra siblings turning up too.  How do you explain to a sibling that there isn’t a party bag for them?  It is unfair to put the host in this position when they have enough to organise on the day.

2. Entertainment

If you are the host of the party and you are not happy for extra siblings to stay, then it is a good idea to make it clear on the invitations. You don’t have to be rude; just a simple line stating “Due to limited space at the venue, it is not possible for us to accommodate extra siblings at the party” will be enough to manage any awkward situations.
Parents book the entertainment they feel is most suitable for their child and the ages of the other children attending.  For example at a 5-year-old’s party, it is likely that the majority of children there will be aged 4-6 years and that is a tight enough age range that a good entertainer will be able to keep them all engaged and having lots of fun.  If much younger or older siblings are suddenly in attendance, then the entertainer may have to change some of what they were going to do.  Experienced entertainers will be able to do this, but is it really fair on the hosts who have booked entertainment with a certain age range in mind?

3. Venue Size

Again the hosts will book the venue with the number of children they are going to invite in mind.  Imagine if everyone turned up with extra guests.  The venue that was a perfect size for the numbers invited can soon seem cramped and overwhelming if lots of uninvited guests turn up.

Of course there are times when it can be difficult and you may have extra children in tow.  In these situations, contact the host in advance and ask if it is OK, but be prepared for them to say no and to make alternative arrangements.  This may just mean leaving your child who has been invited on their own at the party.  Most children if they are school age are fine at a party, even if they are a bit shy to begin with.  A good entertainer will have plenty of techniques to help even the shyest child feel at ease and join in comfortably, and they will quite often join in better if parents have left anyway.

If you are the host of the party and you are not happy for extra siblings to stay, then it is a good idea to make it clear on the invitations.  You don’t have to be rude; just a simple line stating “Due to limited space at the venue, it is not possible for us to accommodate extra siblings at the party” will be enough to manage any awkward situations.

However, you may be happy for people to bring siblings along.  If that is the case, then do make that clear on the invite too and let your entertainer know if there is going to be a wider than usual age range at a party, so they can prepare the perfect entertainment for you all.

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